Lots of people really want to feel connected. It is such a heartfelt inner longing for many.
To feel within them that life is flowing and happening in the right way for them, to feel the grace of spirit and to be happy. Fulfilled, loving relationships. It sounds so easy.
Yet in today’s very distracted world, we consciously (and unconsciously) vote our time for things, people, situations with the choices that we make. People find the simplest things difficult, and consciously placing time in their lives on a practice, at the beginning may seem impossible.
We think that if we go to school, get the right education and then do all the ‘right things’ that we will eventually reach this ‘happy’ place in the fictitious future.
Yet, we wake up often in our thirties, or forties (or later) and we wonder why we are unhappy and what actually would make us happy and how to best go about it. Or we realize that we are spinning in the same stories and our lives lack the deep meaning and connection that we long for.
Do I need to give up my worldly comforts to be happy? Or to have a connection with Spirit? Or should I settle (God forbid) on something that may seemingly give me what I want, continue to distract myself, while I never really know who I am?
People ask me often what is the best practice for them to feel more connected.
Such a deep and profound and important question. It shows me how hungry humanity is for feeling of connectedness to life, love, and purpose.
Majority of world’s spirituality has been masculine, with male role-models, really emphasizing practices that do not help to develop feminine traits. Although these practices are of great value and have proven to be successful, they leave many women disconnected from the feminine flow and many men in today’s world feel disconnected from their feelings and not fully embracing their purpose.
When considering a spiritual practice for any length of time we need to consider a number of things.
1. Practitioners motivation and ability to continue something for an extended period of time. A spiritual practice is different in nature than a practice that is designed to antidote or exaggerate a behaviour. A spiritual practice is meant to not only connect one but to help to develop a relationship with the sacred, and to maintain it.
2. The objective of the practice and why do we want to pursue this objective.
a) This is an important point to consider as this type of ‘objective’ practice may be helpful to develop a focus, and can also cause disappointment if progress is slow
b) Also we need to look at the objective – how this objective is going to sustain this individual to feel connected with themselves and is this practice going to really benefit them in a long run. Ex: Vipassana meditations can be great for men for an extended period of time, yet women would not flourish in connecting with the feminine or their essence as a result of doing this practice for a prolonged amount of time due to its masculine nature.
3. Outside influences on the persons’s life. Important factor to consider is a life style someone has, to be able to be successful at any thing we need to be able to apply it to life, things will begin to change and shift as a result in our life and so we need to be able maintain the practice. This is the embodiment that comes in as a result of practicing. Practice needs to be anchored in reality and connected to one’s life.
I believe these are some of the more important factors.
Awakening coaching – when I coach people is really designed in many ways at deconstructing the resistance to frequencies that shows up as beliefs, conditioning and points of view that currently are posing challenges and repetition of patters.
As a results of these releases we do, everything begins to flow in a most natural way and people find themselves open to more grace and heart-centered spontaneity.
When working with individuals I always take an ‘inventory’ of their gifts, practices to-date, and habits that are present to arrive at the best suitable mix.
What I have found works best, is a practice that really creates openness and brings healing to the inner self – the parts most intimate to us that need attention and are manifesting as unconscious patterns. A practice that has an emotional component to allow for necessary release of feelings and allows for inner restoration.
We can address some patterns simply with antidoting behaviours or exaggerating them – ‘yoga of personality’ as Arjuna Ardagh precisely calls it. And we can create a longer practice for those who want to continue their inner discovery.
Using Ayurvedic principles of mind-body balancing, Buddhist practices, and tools of awakening coaching I help to design beautiful practices for people that can be done daily for an extended period of time (months).
From my own 15+ years of practicing I find that a great spiritual practice involves (for both men and women) movement, some stillness, prayer, reflection and writing/drawing. In this way we can see and witness our progress – which offers us a rewarding look-back at our evolution, inspiring us to continue to progress and evolve, as well as bringing awakening to areas where previously there wasn’t any awareness.
Want to create a yummy gratifying spiritual practice to enhance and support your current life!? Contact me for a 1:1 session.
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